Saturday, August 7, 2010

He gets it from his Jan-Ma

Every since I can remember, my sisters and I have repeatedly been told that we look, act, or talk just like our mom. For those of you who know our family pretty well, you know we are all pretty close knit. Even more so now that we've all had to deal with some tough times. It is amazing what things like this can to do to a family. It can be one extreme to the next. Everyone can fight and take it out on each other, or everyone can get along and enjoy the time that we are given. Our family naturally stuck with option 2. Before Kannon was born, we were told he had a cyst in his brain. We were also told that when he was born he would have to have an Ultrasound on his head, possibly a CT or an MRI. Well, little did we know, he had to have all 3, some more than once! My mom would always say "He just wants to be like his Jan-Ma!" (JAN+Grandma= Jan-MA). So now that is mom's answer to everything, and I have to admit, it makes me smile every time I hear it. So much of what I see in Kannon, I see in my mom. They have both been through so much, and are two of the strongest people I know. When I went to Kannon's geneticist appointment and got the news that he had Tetrasomy i(5p) Mosaicism---most of what the doctor said after that I inadvertently tuned out. Zach had to work, so my mom came with me. I don't like going to the Dr's appointments alone, so I was happy she was there with Kannon and I. A lot of what happened that day reminded me of when I went with my mom to her Dr's appointment, when she was first told she had skin cancer. Even when I asked questions about Kannon's diagnosis, I don't think the answers were truly sinking in. The Dr. went on to tell us that Kannon would have significant developemental delays, respiratory problems, heart problems and/or defects, seizures, and the list keeps going. I ended up calling the genetic counselor back that day--and again the day after--asking more questions. I'm almost sure I was repeating the questions I had asked when the Dr. talked to us the first time, but this time I was ready to comprehend everything...

Still, almost 2 weeks later, I still don't feel like I understand it all. Then, finally it occurred to me. All these answers I thought I was getting, weren't the answers. They were just suggestions. The worst suggestions. Just like on the commericials when they advertise for a new drug, they have to tell you all these crazy insane side effects that probably happened once, but there is only a chance it could happen again. I have to keep reminding myself that Kannon is one out of four. That leaves the door wide open for anything to happen, and for miracles to be made. The Dr's don't hold the answers. All answers are found from above...and as for Kannon, he is writing his own story. Just like his Jan-Ma.

UPDATE: Kannon started his medication, and so far there hasn't been any changes. He doesn't seem to be "sedated"...he sleeps just as much as before. And there hasn't been any change as far as his seizures go. They are still happeninig. The Dr. said it may take a week or so to see any change. However, Kannon is running a little bit of a temperature today. AND he started using his hands to rub his eyes! Which he had never done before lastnight!! yay :)

3 comments:

  1. I get teary eyes everytime I read a new post your life story is truly touching and your mom and kannon are an inspiration

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  2. Prayers are with you and your family love! Thinking of you and your little man, Kannon all the time.... <3 Heard this song, it's an older one from Natalie Grant, but I instantly thought of Kannon, you, and your family!! =) So I wanted to give this song to you all... God bless you and your family... love you!!


    Natalie Grant : Held
    Two months is too little
    They let him go
    They had no sudden healing
    To think that providence
    Would take a child from his mother
    While she prays, is appalling
    Who told us we'd be rescued
    What has changed and
    Why should we be saved from nightmares
    We're asking why this happens to us
    Who have died to live, it's unfair

    [Chorus]
    This is what it means to be held
    How it feels, when the sacred is torn from your life
    And you survive
    This is what it is to be loved and to know
    That the promise was when everything fell
    We'd be held

    This hand is bitterness
    We want to taste it and
    Let the hatred numb our sorrows
    The wise hand opens slowly
    To lilies of the valley and tomorrow

    [Chorus]
    This is what it means to be held
    How it feels, when the sacred is torn from your life
    And you survive
    This is what it is to be loved and to know
    That the promise was when everything fell
    We'd be held
    [Bridge]
    If hope is born of suffering
    If this is only the beginning
    Can we not wait, for one hour
    Watching for our savior
    [Chorus]
    This is what it means to be held
    How it feels, when the sacred is torn from your life
    And you survive
    This is what it is to be loved and to know
    That the promise was when everything fell
    We'd be held
    We'd be held

    This is what it is to be loved and to know
    That the promise was when everything fell
    We'd be held

    This is what it means to be held.....

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  3. YAY for the eye rubbing!! I am happy to see he is not sedated from the medication. I am just so amazed at how strong you are. As for delays, yu are absilutely right, focus on what he can do. Everything else will come when the time is right. Take care!!

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